Psychologyspeaking topic
The more often you see a person, the more you like them, even if they never do anything special. Familiarity alone manufactures affection. So does liking really belong to the person, or to the comfort of 'familiar and harmless'?
— the mere exposure effect
practice with this topic
Set the timer (5-30 min), take 20 seconds of prep if you like, start talking. Jot your thoughts onto the sticky-note board.
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