Psychologyspeaking topic
A person who wrongs someone often ends up hating their victim even more; it's the perpetrator who nurses the grudge, not the victim. To quiet the conscience, they have to decide 'he deserved it anyway'. Why does the harm we do make the victim look guiltier in our eyes?
— just world belief, victim blaming
practice with this topic
Set the timer (5-30 min), take 20 seconds of prep if you like, start talking. Jot your thoughts onto the sticky-note board.
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