Psychologyspeaking topic
Tell someone 'don't think of a pink elephant' and a pink elephant is all they can think of. Why does forcing the mind away from a thought drag it straight into the center? Why does what we try to control end up controlling us?
— ironic process theory (Wegner)
practice with this topic
Set the timer (5-30 min), take 20 seconds of prep if you like, start talking. Jot your thoughts onto the sticky-note board.
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