Psychologyspeaking topic
A text arrives saying 'I was just thinking about you', right as you were thinking of them, and you call it an incredible coincidence. But you never counted the thousands of times you thought of someone and no text came. Why does the mind tally the meaningful hits and ignore all the misses?
— confirmation bias and the perception of coincidence
practice with this topic
Set the timer (5-30 min), take 20 seconds of prep if you like, start talking. Jot your thoughts onto the sticky-note board.
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