Psychologyspeaking topic
Telling yourself 'you can do this' works better than telling yourself 'I can do this'. When your inner voice uses your own name, it's as if someone else is coaching you, and you calm down. Why do we grow stronger when we address ourselves like a friend instead of as 'I'?
— distanced self-talk (Ethan Kross)
practice with this topic
Set the timer (5-30 min), take 20 seconds of prep if you like, start talking. Jot your thoughts onto the sticky-note board.
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