Psychologyspeaking topic
“Love is an activity, not a passive affect; it is a 'standing in,' not a 'falling for.'”
— Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving (1956)
practice with this topic
Set the timer (5-30 min), take 20 seconds of prep if you like, start talking. Jot your thoughts onto the sticky-note board.
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