Psychologyspeaking topic
The triangle of love: Sternberg splits love into passion, intimacy, and commitment; remove any one and the relationship turns into something else. Which of the three can disappear and still leave us calling it love?
— Sternberg, the triangular theory of love
practice with this topic
Set the timer (5-30 min), take 20 seconds of prep if you like, start talking. Jot your thoughts onto the sticky-note board.
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