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The 36 questions experiment: strangers who answer a set of increasingly personal questions together can develop closeness, even love. Is intimacy woven slowly over time, or built in a moment of the right shared vulnerability?
— Arthur Aron, the 36 questions study
practice with this topic
Set the timer (5-30 min), take 20 seconds of prep if you like, start talking. Jot your thoughts onto the sticky-note board.
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